These photos were actually taken in October on my birthday (right before my party, thanks to Rachel and Brittanny) but I had to save them for this time of year! 🙂 I scored this Alice + Olivia dress on clearance a few months ago and the blue sequins are everythingggggg. I added links to some gorgeous blue sequin dresses on the bottom of the post because how else do you celebrate the new year if not with the most sequined, blinged-out dress you can find?!
On another note…. I hope it’s ok if I use this space to vent for a second. I’m not sure if it’s the time of year or what exactly it is, but I’ve been noticing quite a few bloggers recording their personal weight loss journeys on their blogs and offering weight loss advice for their followers. Maybe it’s because I’m a social worker or maybe it’s because I lost a dear friend to an eating disorder when she was just 21 years old, but I find it dangerous to give weight loss advice to others for two reasons. Firstly, we all have different bodies with different needs so what works for one person might be completely opposite of what another person needs. Maybe one person finds being vegan her key to health while another person needs their turkey or red meat to be strong and healthy. One person might find that eating less carbs is good for their body while another person needs more carbs to fuel their brain and body. But just because you found something that works for YOU, it doesn’t mean that you are now an expert with a degree in dietetics and know what everyone needs. And when you have young and impressionable readers, it is so important to watch how you talk about diets and bodies.
And secondly, I find that focusing on a number on the scale causes us to to lose sight of what the real focus should be; living a balanced and healthy life regardless of body size. We have enough judgement and prejudice against overweight people in our society. I see people suddenly “care” about the wellbeing of a complete stranger because “omg, it’s just so unhealthy to be at that weight!” And really? Did you see their blood test results? Can you see their unhealthiness just oozing out of their pores? We are all worthy of acceptance as we are and if you’re lucky enough to have a blog with a big audience, why not use that platform to bring about positivity and acceptance; not perpetuate the twisted belief in our society that you’re only worthy and “good enough” if you’re thin? Self acceptance doesn’t have to mean that there’s no room for growth or change; it just means that you are ok and worthy of love whether you’re a size 0 or 28. To take care of myself, I end up unfollowing bloggers who record their diets and weight loss because it’s unhealthy for me to be reading that. I don’t need to hear about how “omg I gained so much weight, I’m fat, it’s disgusting.” I’d love to be cheering you on your path to health and balance without body bashing and diet talk.
Photos thanks to Rachel of I Hate Blonde
Alice + Olivia dress, sold out. Similar Dress the Population sequin dress or Nue by Shany sequin dress, Shoshanna sequin dress or Carmen Marc Valvo floral dress. Leather jacket borrowed. Similar Topshop leather biker jacket or BLK DNM lambskin leather jacket, Kendra Scott Naomi Double Ring C/O and Alexis Bittar earrings