The new year is rapidly approaching and with that, I unfortunately expect to be seeing way too many resolutions focused on weight loss and dieting. Why do I have a problem with weight loss resolutions?
Well, because it makes me extremely sad that so many of us care more about being thin more than literally everything else in the world. Why do we reduce our entire self worth on the size of our bodies?! And before I get those annoying comments about how people are trying to lose weight to be healthy and all of America is obese, let me clarify.I’m not saying that I don’t think it’s a wonderful idea to focus on being healthy and balanced. Of course it’s important to take care of our bodies and nourish ourselves properly. But focusing on a number on the scale or a clothing size, like I’ve explained numerous times, often skews our priorities. Everything about our society is focused on thinness and the “perfect” body which doesn’t help our self image and incredibly high rate of disordered eating. And let’s be real for a second, by February or March (if not sooner), 95% of us have already failed with our often unrealistic weight loss resolutions anyway. It’s not because we’re failures but because often our resolutions are unrealistic if not outright impossible.
So let’s talk about the more realistic resolutions instead of weight loss resolutions we can focus on instead for the new year. In my work as a psychotherapist, helping my clients focus on smaller and more attainable goals has proven to be much more effective in the long run anyway. Here are three alternative resolutions to try instead:1. Change the language we use to talk about ourselves.
How many times do we overhear women in a dressing room pinching their stomachs and talking about how gross and disgusting they are? If that’s the language we use to talk about ourselves, it’ll be a lot harder to nourish ourselves properly and take care of our bodies. Let’s try and treat ourselves more kindly this year. That will go a much longer way into how we decide to treat our bodies.2. Stop eliminating entire food groups.
Obviously, if you have an allergy or intolerance that’s a different story. But for everyone else, making such extreme changes in our diets are exactly what causes our plans to be so short lived. Being so black and white is nine times out of ten unsustainable. If we keep the focus on overall trying to eat as healthy and whole as possible while absolutely leaving room for the occasional dessert (because let’s live a little!), we will be much more likely to succeed in the long run.3. Listen to our bodies.
Many of us have forgotten what it’s like to tune into our bodies and listen to our hunger and fullness cues. Instead, we often ignore or miss those signs of hunger and wait until we’re starving to eat which often leads us to be more likely to overeat or binge. Or the opposite, we keep eating even when we’re uncomfortable because we are using food to self soothe or stuff our feelings down. Normal eating IS overeating or undereating on an occasion of course (most of us indulge during the holidays) but learning to tune into our bodies more regularly and respond to the cues our bodies give us will help us treat our bodies better.
What do you think of these alternative New Year’s resolutions? And will you be making any resolutions this year? I’d love to hear about them!
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