I’ve gotten quite a few messages from you guys sharing that you feel anxiety about overeating during the holidays and have been tempted to cut back this week to compensate.
First of all, take a deep breath and have some compassion for yourself please! Sukkot is 9 days long and challenging for so many people. Holidays can be hard whether you struggle with disordered eating/eating disorders or not. It’s a lot of family time, a lot of sitting around at hours long meals – so please try and be gentle with yourself.
Now, let’s talk about what cutting back over the next few days would look like. Because the thing is, dieting/restricting/cutting back pretty much guarantees that you’ll feel SO much more out of control when the second round of big holiday meals start up again. Because you’re going to be hungry AF and allllll the foods you didn’t let yourself have all week will be in front of you again. And what happens? You feel completely out of control around those foods and think you have no self control.
Naaaaa- the reality is that when you allow yourself to eat without food rules and guilt, the intense desire to binge or overeat often decreases because you know you can have all kinds of food when you want them.
But something to remember is that overeating at times, especially during holidays, is totally part of normal eating!! I hope you can have compassion for yourself and let yourself enjoy the yummy foods, guilt-free of course. There is no failing on the road to intuitive eating. Learning to reconnect with your innate hunger/fullness cues in our $68 billion dollar diet industry invested in making us think that our eating needs a set of rules to follow is really, really hard. You can’t do it wrong- we learn and evolve every day and that’s part of being human, right?
The best thing you can do for yourself today is eat and NOT restrict. You deserve to eat whatever appeals to you at whatever size you’re at.
(More reading: I Am Not The Size Of My Body)